Does everyone have that?
I see some people, mainly in conversations who will force their opinion, point of view or just their sentence out of their mouth, pushing the returning comment of their listener back into their mouth, simply because 'they hadn't finished talking yet' and still had more to make clear. It makes conversations resemble tiny monologues between two people, desperately trying to be heard 'completely' and 'correctly'.
My dad taught me the dynamics of a conversation, and I am forever grateful that he did.
I tend to speak a lot when I'm on a verbal roll, but I almost immediately shut up & listen when I notice that someone is about to reply, or as my dad would say, trying to get a word in...
However, when in a conversation I get the feeling that I'm not understood, instead of stressing my point, I shut up. I go on automatic pilot and reply in the best way I can to politely end the conversation as quick as possible, so I can get on with whatever I am doing, or desire to do.
I know that's wrong. If not for the way I tackle it, it would be plain rude, and it's not like I want to be rude, but for some dark reason, when I try to be understood, and I am not, it hurts like hell.
It seems that in my head, being understood is directly linked with being seen and acknowledging me, it's like my being is linked to being understood.
If I'm trying to show an aspect of myself, but you can't see it... is it then really there?
I realize that this is a lot to ask of a person who happens to discuss something with me that I am passionate about, so my solution is, a lack of desire to be understood when I talk to someone. (read: avoid conversations that are close to my heart).
I realize that this isn't the best solution, but it works.
There are exceptions. Life would be very lonely if there weren't.
Not only that, but 99% of the time I don't even notice that this is what I do, and life is cool.
But there are some people that I really want to be acknowledged by. So when they don't understand my view on things....then I feel really crapy ..... and then write a post on my blog and try to get over it...
